This time of uncertainty and dis-ease has no doubt brought on many changes for most, if not all of us. There are so many discussions of the new “norm”. In many cases, this “new norm” has created or even exacerbated unwanted habits and behaviors. After following 1000 smokers and ex-smokers for two years, researcher and author of the book Changing to Thrive, psychologist James Prochaska created the Stages of Change model.  Through his research, Prochaska found that there are 5 stages that one had to go through in order to achieve success in

I’ve come to realize that one of the great lessons in my life has been in letting go. Letting go of the anger toward people in my life who didn’t show up in the way that I needed them to. Letting go of the wanting for things to be different than they were. Letting go of the sadness from the reality that they weren’t different, that they were as they were. Letting go of the walls that were built to protect myself, and letting go of need to be protected. Letting

I’m having a bad day. There are no bad days, only bad moments. If you woke up, and you’re breathing, then there’s more good in your day than bad! I can’t.  Be mindful when saying “I can’t.” Is it that you can’t, or you don’t want to? “Can’t” means that it is NOT POSSIBLE. I should. Replace “should” with “want” because it is likely that you do want whatever it is you believe you should be doing. “I should go to the dentist.” Well, I definitely want to keep the teeth that are in my mouth, so

Much of coaching is about setting goals or intentions. The client often enters the coaching with some sort of an agenda. They are looking for something that they currently don’t have, or perhaps seeking change. I describe it as “you’re at point A and you want to be at point B” (your goal), but there’s ‘stuff’ that’s in the way, blocks preventing you from getting there. Maybe you’re just not sure how to get there. Whatever it is, something is holding you back. The first question I ask is “Who are you?” And then, “Who

Inevitably, I often hear “Oh, I couldn’t do that!” when I suggest a practice of mindfulness and meditation. “I could never get my mind to stop!” There is a misconception that practicing meditation and mindfulness means shutting off the mind from thinking. Nope!  Simply stated, mindfulness is paying attention, on purpose, to the present moment —being aware of what’s happening right now, in this moment, without judgment, without resistance, without a story. Stress and anxiety arise from a story of judgment and resistance.  Mindfulness is not a way to stop the mind from thinking.