The Blame Game

You, and only you, are responsible for your life.

Every choice you make creates your reality. We don’t always have control over the situation, but what we can control is how we respond. In each situation, we’re given 3 choices.

  1. We can blame others for the pain, the grief or the sorrow that we’re experiencing. We are victim to their behaviors.
  2. We can blame ourselves for our own poor choices that led to this pain and suffering. We can become angry with ourselves for making such stupid choices.

The third choice is to just “be”

…be with the experience of the pain, without resistance, without judgment, without wanting it to change. Just allow it to be, knowing that it has it’s purpose in your life. We choose to see this as an opportunity to learn about ourselves.

Yeah, sometimes it sucks. It’s painful. It hurts. But when we choose blame, we choose resistance, we choose avoidance, we lose our power.  And we wait for it to happen again. And it will. It might not look the same, but the lesson that it teaches us is the same.

We can only know it’s purpose when we allow ourselves to experience it, without judgment and without blame. We ask ourselves these questions

  • What is the lesson?
  • What can I learn about myself in this situation?
  • How can I use this to move forward?

We listen. We learn. We grow.

There is the power!